it is almost unreal to think that one year ago today, i married my silly, patient and incredibly handsome guy. even crazier to fathom that only two years ago today we were out in portland on our first date. i guess the saying, “when you know, you know,” rings true for the two of us.
our first year of marriage, it has been an absolute blessing. i however will not completely sugarcoat it — this past year has also been incredibly challenging. yes, we are celebrating our one year of marriage but in no way does that mean we have figured this thing called marriage out. we have a long way to go and boy do we both know it. we experienced a lot of emotional events this past year including the death of a family member, the critical illness of another and even a miscarriage. all of those events are a part of life and having a loving and supporting partner to lean on has made the world of difference.
i have learned a lot over the past 365 days, here are four that i’d like to share:
- love is a choice, marriage is a choice
“may your wedding day be the day you love each other the least.”
the day you marry your partner should not be the peak of your love. it’s not let’s get married and then everything goes to poo. marriage is the starting point to your new life together and every day that love should exponentially grow.
we wrote in our vows that marriage is a choice, love is a choice. we choose one another again and again every morning we rise.
- people communicate differently
my husband and i endeavor to learn how to communicate effectively with one another. he likes to talk things out while it takes me a few hours (or days) to really gather my thoughts. in this respect, he is patient and i have in return learned to use my voice
- make time for date nights and check-ins
the constant hustle and bustle of life can really wear one out. taking the time to spend a night in/out with your partner with no distractions (put those phones away) can truly replenish your reserves. your relationship is important, invest in quality time!
- sometimes, you just need to listen
the power of listening to someone, genuinely hearing what they have to say, can accomplish wonders. frustrations are cured, hurt feelings are resolved and a deep understanding cultivated.
i have never gotten around to posting our incredible photos, taken by Rachel Peterson of RP Imagery. this blog post is about to be ridiculously long.. are you ready for this? **at the bottom of all the photos is our highlight wedding film 🙂